You’re Not the Boss of Me!

Laws, community association governing documents and policies are designed to help boards of directors identify their roles and responsibilities. They provide a framework of expectation for community members. And they can be immensely useful in dealing with inappropriate and ill-advised actions. But they are not enough.

Ironically, these documents by their nature can actually make it more difficult to motivate some to do the right thing. They outline behaviors – “what” and “how,” sometimes in excruciating detail. A fundamental challenge is that the documents themselves rarely address the underlying principles as to why they exist in an effective way – the “Why.”

not the boss of meIt is human nature to bristle at being told what to do, especially when we don’t see the purpose. So, while it may be technically proficient to cite the law, governing documents, policies, and case law in addressing issues, the most effective boards, managers, and lawyers raise the bar. They help their clients and members appreciate the Why. This provides context and can make requirements easier to swallow. When common benefit is accentuated, it may even be motivational.

Those of us who serve community associations must recognize that when we provide direction and recommendation, even when fully supported by documentation, the communication may be received on an emotional level as an ego-based message. If so, this is likely to result in an ego-based reaction. The key is to raise the level of communication from ego to principle. The message is far more palatable and effective when it is properly placed in the context of values. Rules don’t reach hearts, but principles can. Even though we have to work in the trees of technicality and details, we need to help our clients and community members see the forest if we are to serve them at the highest level.

THE TAKEAWAYS …
* Communicate the Why whenever possible.
* Seek to identify shared values, allow discussion about specific behaviors to be in the context of those values.
* Beware the perception of ego-based communication; seek to raise the level of all communications to principle-based.

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Attitude – The Secret Weapon of Time Management

Time management is as much mindset as it is skillset. Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, or think you can’t, either way you’re right.” Most of the professional train wrecks I know are certain they have no control over their time. They are perpetual victims and live in the world of self-fulfilling prophecy. Sure, they have no system whatsoever, and that’s a big part of the problem. That will be the subject of another blog post. In all the people I’ve coached through the years, there was a clear and direct relationship between attitude and effective time management.

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So let’s flip the script. Can a positive attitude be a time management tool? Yes, yes, yes! Think about this – what happens the day before you go on vacation? Amazingly, everything gets done that day. Why? Motivation! You will move heaven and earth to make sure you don’t miss that flight to paradise. You KNOW you can do this! You are so excited you become a super hero with boundless energy. This drives you to do a few things:
* You’ll be super focused on the goal.
* You’ll be very clear on what you must do and what may not really have to be done.
* You’ll identify and use all available resources.
* You’ll be ridiculously efficient in all your activity. Fast and furious with no wasted motion.

The lessons:
* Positive attitude creates energy.
* Motivation drives clarity.
* Clarity drives efficiency.
* Tasks are not necessarily static.
* It all starts with attitude.

How cool would it be if every day could be like the day before you go on vacation? Attitude. It’s the secret weapon of time management.