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Attitude, Book Reviews, business life, values

Book Review #1 – Lessons and a Tribute

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The Backstory

For my first Tomasaurus Rex Blog book review, I chose one with a very personal connection. It is one of my favorite business/life stories. Over the course of my long association with Arthur Dubin back in the Dubin & Associates days, he shared a number of anecdotes about a man he knew in his youth. As near as I could make out, this big-hearted fellow named Jerry had been a big deal at some point. From Arthur’s stories, I gathered Jerry had owned the Philadelphia Eagles. I learned he regularly treated kids to Eagles and Baltimore Bullets games. I knew he had lost his fortune but was not clear exactly how. But the real story was the man behind all that. The Jerry that Arthur described was a kind and generous man who has treated more people to restaurant meals than anyone in history. A famous practical joker, he also had a great sense of humor.

What I did not know when we joined Zalco Realty in June of 2000 was that Jerry Wolman was a real estate phenomenon in the late 50’s and 60’s, that he had embarked on building the tallest skyscraper in the U.S. and that his empire collapsed as a result of issues related to that project. I did not know that Zalco Realty’s owner and chairman had been associated with Jerry and that Zalco’s beginning was in some way connected to the remains of Jerry’s real estate holdings. I also did not know that Jerry kept an office at Zalco.

So we Dubin employees moved into Zalco’s Silver Spring office as part of the merger arrangement. My next door office neighbor was this extremely friendly older fellow named Jerry. As we chatted amiably about life and business, I noticed that the guy especially lit up when talking about two things – his family and sports. He exuded kindness and generosity of spirit, one of those people for whom you sense you would be happy to do anything for. I got the feeling I could learn a lot from this guy. One day I told Jerry I’d love to better understand the art of the real estate deals and pick his brain. I explained how I would love to get off the financial hamster wheel one day but that I was limited by a lack of capital. Jerry told me, “Aw Tommy, you don’t need money to make money. You just need balls!” So old school.

Then one day our discussion turned again to sports. He casually mentioned he once owned the Eagles, but it was a long time ago when I wouldn’t have known any of the players. Jerry had not yet grasped that I am a bit of a sports history nut. After reeling off the names of half a dozen or so players, his eyes flashed as he broke into that big Jerry smile and he exclaimed, “You know!!” After a few months of being next door to the guy, the light bulb finally turned on. I walked into Arthur’s office and asked, “That guy Jerry I’ve been talking to for the last 6 months – that’s The Jerry?” Arthur, incredulous, replied, “You didn’t know that?”

Fully enlightened, I thoroughly enjoyed my time with Jerry until he moved out of Silver Spring and into an office at the Ellicott City spring water bottling business he was working on at the time. We caught up every so often. It was always a delight. Jerry was the kind of person you want to be like when you grew up, in part because in some laudable ways he never grew up. He was the guy you wanted to introduce to all the special people in your life. I was grateful my wife got to meet the man I had talked about so much before she passed. As I learned more about his history and did a little research on the Philadelphia Flyers and the John Hancock Center, I was amazed at his irrepressibly positive attitude. The fact that he never expressed any bitterness whatsoever towards those who appeared to have done everything from serving him poorly to being outright disloyal showed me the meaning of grace.

The Summary

I knew Jerry was a class act, but my appreciation grew considerably after reading the book. He never claimed to be a perfect man, just a regular guy from Shenandoah (“Shendo”) PA. The book chronicles his life from boyhood to his chance arrival in Washington, DC. He kept his eyes open, thought creatively, and found opportunity, eventually presiding over a $100 million (roughly $750M in 2018 dollars) real estate development and management empire. His business practices were old school, to say the least. Deals were sealed with handshakes. Your word was your bond. Eventually, he lived his dream and bought the Philadelphia Eagles. Soon after, his holdings included the Spectrum arena and the fledgling Philadelphia Flyers. Then it all came apart. Construction faults in his most ambitious construction project and his resolve to remain personally responsible for the business required him to liquidate his assets, including his beloved Eagles. Along the way and well after the financial fall, Jerry touched countless lives with his kindness and generosity. In the end, many of those to whom he gave grew in material wealth. Some owed their fortunes to him. But with the love Jerry shared and got back from friends and family, he remained the richest of them all.

The Gold

Jerry’s story is a touching and, in the final analysis, uplifting story of what a person can accomplish. It also teaches how to recognize the failures of the past and admit errors while staying focused on the present. Success and riches of real value transcend cash, power and toys. It’s about family, and dreams, and effort, and people, and giving, and love. I don’t know anyone who has given as much away as Jerry did without ever keeping score. Naturally, proceeds from the book went to a charity close to Jerry’s heart.

Jerry’s inscription in my copy of the book. A tough guy unafraid to express love – pure Jerry

We lost Jerry in 2013. I wish you could have met him. I miss him, but his impact on my life remains. I’ll tell Jerry stories as long as I live. Soon, very few will remember the man. The book is already hard to get. Don’t miss out.  Amazon still has a few copies.

Attitude, business life, community associations, Management

3 Kinds of Jobs

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In my late teens I had a ridiculously intelligent friend. Dave was an engineering student at the University of Maryland. I remember him lamenting how he missed a perfect score on the verbal part of the SAT by 40 points. Of course he aced the math part of the test. Dave’s book smarts were most impressive. But what I appreciated more was his analytical approach to life in general.

Hassle

Dave worked a part-time job assembling printed circuit boards. He fussed about his boss, he fussed about the job, and he fussed about the foibles and folly of business in general. Finally, he came to an epiphany. With impish grin and eyebrows raised, he proclaimed. “I now understand business. The company and the job titles are irrelevant. There are actually only three jobs in business; Hassle Creators, Hassle Transferers, and Hassle Receivers. If you are a Hassle Receiver, do anything you can do to get promoted to Hassle Transferer or quit. Of course, the best job is Hassle Creator, but that’s usually the owner.”

Dave’s Three Job Theorem still crosses my mind every so often. It still makes me laugh. In a narrow, simplistic sort of way, it’s true. It’s also a bit naïve. Owners deal with plenty of hassle. There are no pure Hassle Creators.

Job/Career/Calling

Years later I found an even more studious approach to the workplace. Kouzes and Posner’s The Leadership Challenge  recognizes that people tend to see what they do for a living in three different ways; as a job, as a career, and as calling. Not nearly as funny as Dave’s Three Job Theorem, but a tad more refined. And while Dave’s categories were hierarchical, Kouzes & Posner’s are applicable to any position. It’s an attitude.

The three approaches speak to a level of commitment and personal satisfaction. A job? 9-5. Punch the clock A means to an end. A career? You do it because you have a plan. A calling? That one always repelled me a little before studying Kouzes & Posner. To me, “calling” used to imply some sort of divine will, and that seemed a bit over the top. After I stumbled upon community association management (like so many of us did), I realized that I felt drawn to the work. But I still didn’t buy in to any kind of personal manifest destiny. The clouds didn’t part, there was no voice from heaven. I just enjoyed the bigger picture of what I did. There were parts of the job I was not thrilled with. Yet, there were elements of the work I enjoyed very much. Taking care of people, fixing things, helping people enjoy where they lived, making a difference in the lives of others, and helping leaders find fulfillment in their service all drew…or called…me.

I also found myself repelled by the idea that everyone should find some mystical perfect situation. Sure, seemed to find their “calling’ early in life. But it seemed to me that many more found it later after developing their skills and interests over time. There was work involved, and it was rarely perfect. The gold was in the process to get there.

A Choice – Work

Kouzes & Posner helped me to realize that while a calling could theoretically be divine in nature, it is primarily finding things to do that were in harmony with your personal values and goals. That is what draws, or “calls” you. I remember the beauty of one of the examples cited in the The Leadership Challenge. A hospital janitor, a position my friend would certainly rate as a Hassle Receiver, viewed has job as a calling. Why? He explained, “I help people get better.” Not only did he recognize that the quality of his work made the environment healthier, but was called by the ability to make a bigger impact. He found that the way he did the work – the way he interacted with patients and their family and visitors, with a smile, a kind word, a simple kindness – made all the difference. I seriously doubt the gentleman grew up thinking this was his dream job. But his life experience and attitude put him in a position to see what he did for a living as a calling.

Grit by Angela Duckworth and Known by Mark Schaeffer do a great job debunking the cosmic calling concept. There’s no reason to feel pressured if you can’t magically find your calling. Try stuff. Learn stuff. Notice when you are at your best and figure out why it worked. And you calling doesn’t have to have anything to do with earning money. If a job allows you to pursue a calling, it’s worth it.

Great/Neutral/Bad

Which leads me to one of my old definitions of the 3 types of jobs. I used to say a great job helps you to be the person you want to be. It energizes you, inspires you, and fortifies you. A neutral job doesn’t necessarily help you to be the person you want to be, but it doesn’t make it too hard, either. You have space to grow and at least some opportunities to live your values through your work. I defined a bad job as one that makes it very hard for you to live by your values. This kind of job sucks the life out of you, leaves you exhausted and requires a herculean effort just to show up every day.

It’s Up To You

No matter how you analyze your work, what you do with it is a choice. One person’s horrible job is a dream job for someone else. Knowing yourself, what motivates you, and the values and goals you choose are at the beginning of navigating your path.

I’ve never been a fan of the term “work-life balance” because it gives work equal value to life. That’s nuts. Work is a part of life. The key is the extent to which your work is in harmony with your purpose. And it does not matter how. I know people who hold seemingly mundane part-time jobs who are happy as clams. Why? Because that job allows them to do the volunteer work they love. And this allows them to find joy when working a job others might find meaningless

Getting this right usually takes time. Recognize that not only what you do but how you do it can make a big difference in enjoying what you do. Things change and you’ll grow. Who knows, a neutral job might become a good one, even a great one. I will always treasure an email I received from a manager who invited me to attend her PCAM induction ceremony.  She wrote, “The first time you interviewed me, you asked if community association management was a job, a career or a calling for me. At that point, I answered that it was a career, but now I can truly say it is a calling.”

As the late, great Jim Rohn said, “Accept all experience. See what it can teach you.” Whatever role work has in your life, you will probably have to spend a good chunk of your life doing it. You might as well find a way to enjoy it!

Attitude, business life, Human Resources, Management

Get Stuff Done and Have Some Fun – A 20 Question Checkup From the Neck Up

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It’s Labor Day here in the U.S. We celebrate it by taking a day off. Something about that always made me laugh a little. The truth is, “celebration” and “labor” are rarely found in the same sentence. Apparently, somewhere between 70% and 90%  of employees do not feel engaged in their work. My experience working closely with community association professionals leaves me unsurprised (and saddened) by those statistics.

I got some interesting comments about an online job bank announcement I posted a few years ago for a client. I must have been a little frustrated when I wrote something along the lines of “butt covering, blame shifting, can’t do managers need not apply.” I may have used the term “retread…” I was serious. A burned out, disengaged manager just wouldn’t cut it. The client had a keen BS-o-Meter and needed somebody who would walk the walk.

It occurs to me I’ve developed a list of contrasts in my head – behaviors, character traits, and perspectives that seem to reveal the difference between managers who excel and enjoy what they do, and those who seem mired in mediocrity and misery. I use these to evaluate manager candidates. I also use them as a self-test to see if I am falling into non-productive habits. Here goes…

  1. Am I more bored or more curious?
  2. Am I intellectually lazy or looking to learn?
  3. Am I prepared or am I winging it?
  4. Am I focused on personal credit or team success?
  5. Am I covering by butt or am I taking ownership?
  6. Am I setting a positive tone and creating a space for others to mirror me, or am I mirroring others and leaving mood up to chance?
  7. Am I looking for ways to make a difference (no matter how small) or am I doing just enough to get by?
  8. Am I frowning more or smiling more?
  9. Am I stuck in the weeds or am I seeing the bigger picture?
  10. Has my thinking become task-based (my job is done when I check the box), or results-based (my job is done when the goal is met)?
  11. Am I spending more time explaining procedures or the principles behind the procedures?
  12. Am I spending more time explaining why things can’t be done or getting things done?
  13. Do I have a bias for action or stasis?
  14. Am I holding myself accountable or making excuses?
  15. Am I complaining about unfairness (that which I cannot control) or am I being my best self (that which I can control)?
  16. Am I focusing on the disappointments of the day or what I can learn from them?
  17. What words am I using more often – us and we, or I and me?
  18. Is it getting to be a J-O-B or is it a career (or better yet, a calling)?
  19. Am I thinking or just doing?
  20. I am blindly following my client’s instructions, or am I helping them make educated decisions?

The old adage is correct – you reap what you sow. When you focus on doing better and being better, you are far more likely to feel better and get more out of every experience. It’s so tempting to take the easy path, to be negative, and to blame others. I guarantee you see people around you who do that every day of their unhappy lives. That stuff rubs off. That’s why I like to do a checkup from the neck up from time to time. And if you pass the test and your situation is still crummy, perhaps it’s time to apply #13 and find a new situation.

Do you have a contrasting question to add to the list? Please share!