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Thomas L. Willis, PCAM, has over 30 years of community association management experience. His professional mission is to create spaces where community association leaders and the professionals who serve them can successfully navigate the challenges they face, reach the goals they choose, find satisfaction and joy in their service, and make raving fans of association members. He founded Association Bridge, LLC in 2006 to provide customized training, support, and consulting services to community associations and businesses. He has authored several articles in Common Ground and Community Manager (CAI National periodicals), and for periodicals published by several local CAI chapters. He speaks frequently on industry topics around the country, is an instructor of CAI’s Board Leadership Development Workshop, and is on CAI National’s Professional Management Program Faculty. In addition to being a member of SEVA-CAI, Tom has served the Washington Metro Chapter as a committee chair, council chair and board member. For his efforts, that chapter has given him a number of awards, including Educator of the Year four times. He was elected to the WMCCAI Hall of Fame in 2014.
change management, community associations, condo associations, Cooperatives, Emotional Intelligence, HOAs, leadership, Management

CONTEXT!

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I’ve noticed the word keeps popping into my head more and more. Frequently, my job is to fix stuff. I walk into a lot of situations where people aren’t on the same page or worse. I try to dissect all the factors, and it seems more often than not, lack of context is at the root of the problem in one way or another. As soon as I have all the pieces and can see how they fit together, the rest is easy. Context issues can rear their ugly heads in all kinds of scenarios.

GROUP DYNAMICS

Ever been in Board meetings where certain agenda items go on forever? I remember one client who debated the merits of adding a walkway to a portion of their community for months. It wasn’t budgeted, but it could have improved safety. It could have benefitted many residents, but in theory it might have created a nuisance for those who lived close to the proposed walkway. Discussion and debate started in the weeds and got deeper as time went on. Emotions ran high. In the end, the idea was squashed and the process left a bad taste in everyone’s mouth. The Board is hoping nobody brings it up again. Lack of context ran amok.

If your group is considering a new idea, or a recurring one that never seems to get settled, listen very closely. You may well find that there is a bi-level dialogue going on. The overt conversation is on the merits of the idea in play. But sometimes the reason the subject takes forever to flesh out is because people are struggling to figure out if the thing is really important, timely, or how it fits in to a bigger picture. That subtext can be a sign the group lacks clarity on shared values and vision. If that’s the case, context can be gained by taking the time to achieve consensus on those deeper points. (No, not at a Board meeting – it’s a separate exercise .) With the underpinnings of values and vision in place, things go a lot smoother and quicker.

CHANGING THE MESSAGE

Context also comes up in day to day conflicts. Association members may chafe in matters of covenants enforcement. It’s understandable. After all, who likes to be told they are in the wrong, or feel controlled? All too often, when the nastygram from Big Brother arrives in the mailbox, the missing link is context. Unless the reason for a community standard is understood, that standard, whether enumerated in CC&Rs, rules, policies or procedures, feels irrelevant and maybe even arbitrary. Context can sometimes be achieved by taking the time to explain the reason for the standard, and why those standards benefit everyone in the long run, ESPECIALLY the individual. I’ll never forget my boss telling me that an owner from a former client had called him to complain about a manager who had followed me at my last on-site management job. When he mentioned her name, I had an immediate emotional and physical reaction – I thought she hated my guts. But her comment provided a golden lesson: “I didn’t always agree with Tom, but he always told us what he was going to do in advance, and we always knew why he was doing what he was doing.” Changing the message can help to establish the context.

ASSUME NOTHING

Sometimes confusion and conflict are the result of missing data. It’s really easy to jump to conclusions and muck up the works. I get reminded of that when I get a call or text from one of my favorite managers, who reaches out for assistance on thorny issues from time to time. I listen to a scenario, offer some potential solutions only to hear ,“I don’t think that will work, because (followed by a new factor not previously revealed).” Note to self…slow down, gather all facts, get full context. I think part of the challenge may be that we are encouraged to think quickly and get to the bottom line as fast as possible. But we aren’t necessarily thinking deeply. In the end, conflicts and confusion can get worse, not better, and we accidentally (and ironically) take more time to resolve matters by tying to save time by being fast. One strategy to get full context is to assume nothing and keep asking questions until the root of a matter is clear. Once the context is understood, then move toward potential solutions.

So, the next time you find yourself feeling conflicted and confused, make sure you see the full context of whatever you are dealing with. In the end, it will save you and the people around you time and heartburn. And you might just get something done!

Budgeting, community associations, condo associations, Cooperatives, HOAs, leadership, long range planning, values

The Vision Thing

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The words keep falling out of my mouth. I see it again and again. So many boards think their mission is to keep fees low, period. Ironically, the mindset that this engenders pretty much guarantees that in the end, everyone will pay more.

Never forget that the budget is a tool. It is part of the plan that provides the means by which the community’s needs are met. At a higher level, it can be part of the plan that provides the means by which the aspirations of the community are met. It is the tail, not the dog.

Don’t get me wrong – a fiduciary has a duty to make sure that members’ assets are well utilized. But there’s a huge difference between price and cost. A low price up front can mean tremendous cost later on. A myopic focus on trying to make sure expenses do not exceed the budget plan (key word PLAN) leads to a vicious cycle of failure that goes something like this:

A “we can’t afford it” mindset begets a budget that ignores the reality of the facilities, operations and shared values of community, which begets a budget filled with artificially low line item values, which begets cheap, shortsighted financial decisions during the year, which begets poor quality repairs, supplies, and low reserve funding, which beget Band-Aids and deferred maintenance, which beget emergency response repairs, poor curb appeal, and increasingly unsatisfactory service, which beget negative community spirit and higher accumulated expenses, which beget fear of conflict and board exhaustion, which beget more shortsighted decisions making until….

The bottom drops out. Special assessments, huge fee hikes, and/or debt service (unless the financial condition of the association has been flushed so far down the toilet it’s no longer an option). Ironically, in the end everybody pays more because the board managed down to the budget instead of leading up to a vision.

Vision doesn’t have to be a pie-in-the-sky, magical thing. It can be pragmatic. In working with community association clients, I’ve learned to start with a simple annual planning session. Tell me what you want to do and I’ll tell you what’s important to you. Which means you’ve identified your values. Which leads you to your vision.

So start with planning.  Establish a disciplined, robust budget preparation process. Lead.  And truly serve your members. That is your duty. It’s hard at first, but ask those who have tried to lead associations out of the ashes. It’s much worse.

Going cheap at all costs may be a value, but it does not lead to a sustainable vision. Walk around without your glasses and eventually you will stumble and fall. Don’t be afraid to open your eyes and get the help you need to see clearly.

Human Resources, leadership, Management

How Do They Walk?

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Many, many years ago we had a receptionist who didn’t work out. She started strongly enough – she was mature, helpful and friendly. She even brought in tasty baked goods from time to time – bonus! But, over time, things got weird. This became one of the formative experiences in my business career. It gave rise to one of my favorite and oft-repeated refrains – “You really don’t know someone until you either marry them or hire them.”

I recall the story as told to me by Eddie, one of our managers at the time, recounting a highly instructive lesson shared by his mother, Viv. Viv, you must understand, was one of those ladies who you knew within five minutes of meeting her that she had lived a lot of life, she was going to tell you exactly what she thought, and she was probably somebody you wanted on your side in a dark alley. According to Eddie and my best recollection (after having retold this story a couple dozen or so times), as he tried to describe the pros and cons of our receptionist’s performance the conversation went something like this:

“Eddie, STOP!”
“What, Mom?”
“Just tell me one thing – how does she walk?”
“Huh??”
(impatiently…)”How does she walk? Does she get on up along, or does she shuffle when she walks?”
“Hmmm…come to think of it, she kind of shuffles…”
“Fire her. You’ll never change that.”

And there it was – one of the more valuable pieces of business advice I ever got, wrapped up in two pithy sentences. Those 6 words helped me pull together some guidelines that have served me well.

The Takeaways

• Little things about how people act can tell you a lot about them. Pay attention.
• Hire slow, fire fast.
• You can put people in a position to show character, but you can’t teach it. It’s going to be there or it’s not.
• Don’t waste time and energy trying to change deeply rooted behaviors. If those behaviors are not in synch with the values of the organization, it’s over.

There is one last lesson related to this story. Viv finished her life course a few years ago, yet the message lives on. You never know where life’s lessons are going to come from. There is huge value in taking the time to listen carefully to others and connect the dots to your own life and experience. Then pass it on. You never know how or when it’s going to make a difference. Thanks Viv and Eddie!

Attitude, business life, Time Management

Time Management, Multitasking & Other Myths

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A few years ago I would have never thought “Time Management, Multi-Tasking and Other Myths” was going to be my most requested presentation topic. Then again, given the increasing pace of life, the growing data deluge, the obliteration of work/life balance by hyperconnectivity, and expectation for immediate gratification that has become the new norm, I suppose I shouldn’t be surprised. As things get more stressful, people seem to be getting hungrier for strategies, encouragement, and relief. A recent version of the program was for a management company retreat. What a great little group of people!! At the end I got a question I hadn’t heard before…”Can I have a hug?” I’m gonna remember that one for awhile! I am glad the program has such a positive impact of people, so I’m very happy to keep offering it.

The Tomasaurus Rex Blog is a tool to help me achieve part of my professional mission – to give away my best stuff – the things I’ve been blessed with over the years. Hopefully, folks can pick it up less painfully than I. (Apparently my strategy for a long time was to make every mistake known to mankind…ultimately effective, but not recommended).

So, since the time management program is apparently some of my best stuff, here are some of the “head-nodders,” as I call them. As a presenter/facilitator, you never know exactly what will resonate. So when you say something and a bunch of heads go down to scribble a note, or tap furiously on the phone, there’s a real good chance it was an impactful point worthy of highlighting the next time you share the topic…or tweet. Of course, if the heads nod and there is no other activity, I put them to sleep. Either way, I learn.

So here are some good “head-nodders” for you – 5 commonly held myths and 8 concepts that might make a difference for you:

The Myths:

1. You can manage time. Actually, time is a constant. 60 seconds is always 60 seconds. You can’t manage that. What we call “time management” is more accurately event management. Or even more accurate than that, it’s energy management. Ultimately, we are really talking about the value you infuse into your time.

2. You can’t manage “time.” Since we are stuck with the term “time management,” we’ll work with that. Those who believe they have no control over what takes up their time are doomed to life as a victim. You can’t control everything, but you certainly have influence.

3. A professional keeps gobs of data in her head. A highway to burn out. Get stuff out of your head and on the paper or screen. Albert Einstein reportedly had to look up his own phone number in the white pages. According to the story, he said just didn’t see any value in keeping things in his mind that he could easily access by other means. There’s a lesson there. (Millennials – I know you have no clue what white pages are. But you’ve already Googled it, haven’t you?).

4. You don’t have time. Usually, it is more accurate to say you are choosing to do something else with your time. Everyone has the same 24 hours. Also, take a look at Pearl #6 below about the nature of tasks.

5. You can multitask. Studies show the mind holds only one thought at a time. We may “hypertask,” but be careful. Fast doesn’t necessarily mean efficient. When you do something poorly, you are probably creating more work for yourself and others in the long run. Efficiency is only valuable when it is a function of effectiveness.

The Pearls:

1. Know the difference between a time investment and a time expense. Huge concept. Too many managers think they don’t have time to do the things that save time in the long run. If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it again? How many hours will you spend later because you didn’t take 15 minutes to nip something in the bud and follow it all the way through?

2. Work from a prioritized task list. A cornerstone of time management. Brain dump everything you have to do, then prioritize. Plan the work, then work the plan. Of course the plan will change. Of course you might not get everything done. But at least the most important things are more likely to get done. Extra bonus – you spend a TON less time and mental energy analyzing and making decisions on what to do next over the course of the day.

3. Important things are rarely urgent; urgencies are rarely important. Everything feels urgent these days. Most “urgencies” are menial. Most important things don’t call, text, email, or IM you. Make sure to make important thing an “A” level task and it will get done. Otherwise, your time can easily be consumed by urgencies and you’ll look back with regret.

4. Know what’s important, and what’s not. One the most important skills of a successful manager. Prioritization is vital. Time and experience are the best teachers. Sorry, kids – try to learn fast. Get a mentor. Ask a lot of questions. “How did that work for you?” and “Why?” are great ones.

5. Outside forces can impact you, but they cannot control you. Only you can control you. Give that up and you are the eternal, miserable victim. Not a great plan.

6. Attitude makes a big difference. Time management is as much mindset as it is skillset. Henry Ford said “If you think you can, or think you can’t, either way you’re right.” Tasks are not always static. Doesn’t everything magically get done the day before you go on vacation? Why? Mostly motivation. And maybe coffee.

7. Apply the “single handling concept”. You can lose upwards of 50% efficiency by stopping and starting tasks. Think efficiencies all the time. Better yet, think effectiveness all the time.

8. You only have one life. Live it purposefully. Apply these principles to your whole life, not just your work. Identify what’s really important, create action plans to achieve goals that get the truly important things done. Get it done one prioritized task at a time. Do that, and you’ll have a legitimate claim to peace of mind. Probably the biggest idea of them all.

This stuff isn’t brain surgery, but you do need persistence and discipline. Do you prefer chaos or achievement? Frustration or joy? Regrets or satisfaction? It’s your choice.

community associations, condo associations, Emotional Intelligence, HOAs, leadership, Management

Emotional Intelligence is the Where the Magic Happens

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I’ve worn a few different hats through the years, but for the most part my job has been to do one of two things – fix stuff or make stuff better. I do other work, of course. But those two have been at the heart of the work that really mattered most over the past decade or three.

I’ve partnered with and supported dozens, probably hundreds, of board members, managers, and other professionals who serve community associations (definitely hundreds, I suppose, if you count conference and workshop participants). There have certainly been times when a lack of technical knowledge contributed to the situations I’ve helped people to get through. But frequently, that’s been the easy part to fix. More times than not it was the human factor that was at the root of the toughest problems, to one degree or another. The biggest challenge can be the ability to see ourselves, our circumstances, and the people around us in context. Then we can figure out the best means, methods, and timing to apply all that technical knowledge. That’s what gets things done most effectively and keeps them going smoothly and sustainably.

For the most part, it’s not a lack of IQ that kills us, it’s a lack of EQ. Book smarts has its limits. Emotional intelligence is the difference maker.

You’ve known it when you’ve seen it, and you know when it’s was missing. You’ve been around others who are comfortable in their own skin and make connections, and you’ve suffered the company of those who aren’t and don’t. You’ve seen those who seemed to magically make it all come together and you’ve seen clueless bosses and board members steamroll their way into one debacle after another. One way or another, whenever we are living and working with other human beings, it is personal and group emotional intelligence that makes the difference between knowledge and wisdom, between success and failure, between achievement and frustration.

Jackson Pollock at work in his studio, photographed by Hans Namuth, 1950

We work with people we cannot control. Therefore, we need to deal with the human experience, like it or not. This means going deeper, learning the art of this work and embracing leadership. And the art of leadership requires a knowledge of the palette of emotional intelligence. It is this art that connects on a deeper level, engaging both heart and head, merging motivation with intellect.

John Eliopolo recently posted a great graphic on Linkedin.  It provides a thumbnail to wrap our brains around the components of emotional intelligence:

 

It starts off as an inside job – Learning yourself and figuring out how to impact others and manage yourself. It then looks outward – figuring out where others are coming from and adjusting your approach to make connections and get stuff done.

These are not fluffy “soft skills.” It takes work to master them. Research in the behavioral sciences has revealed the chemistry behind it and its organizational impact. It can be studied, measured, and grown. It helps young managers and new board members avoid burnout and find fulfillment in their work. And we had better start talking about it in our world if we are to begin converting some of the vicious cycles common to our experience into success cycles.

This is not to downplay the importance of competence in the nuts and bolts of the business. As Joe Wise, owner of Wise Property Solutions in Johnson City, Tennessee correctly states “EQ does not patch a deficiency in technical or professional knowledge.” But it’s time we went beyond technical proficiency and a focus on designations as a measure of professionalism. We will be judged neither by the knowledge we possess nor the letters after our names. We’ll be judged by what we get done and the impact we make. So let us start talking about how to add emotional intelligence to our artist’s palette and learn how to do the hard work that makes the magic happen.

For any who might be attending CAI’s 2018 National Conference , I invite you to join Joe Wise and I as we present on this subject on Thursday, May 10. Let’s get this conversation started!

business life, change management, leadership, Management

I Don’t Know (Period?)

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Passive aggression gets a lot of play when we talk about human behavior these days. It’s unhealthy. It’s all too common. That behavior in a business setting is certainly harmful, but not as pervasive as something far more insidious….passive dependency.

Uh oh

Here’s a test – how many times do you hear the words “I don’t know” in your organization? This phase is perfectly OK if its followed by a comma and a plan of action. But when it’s the whole sentence followed by a period, you have a problem.

How about “Well, I was waiting for…” If people are always waiting for someone else to tell them what to do, you have a problem. If everything flows up the organizational chart, action is delayed, decisions get bottlenecked, and customers are poorly served. Nobody learns anything, you have an organization of drones and robots. The vicious cycle of suckitude repeats over and over until the organization dies a slow death. As Bill the Cat would have said, “Ack!!”

Kill the cancer

Passive dependency demotivates people and eats away at the insides of organizations. Treat it aggressively like the cancer that it is.

It’s not you, it’s me. No really, it might be me

Organizations rife with passive dependency have Papa or Momma Bears at the top. Be careful that’s not you. It’s easy to fall into. Are you being responsible, or have you become despotic (benevolent or not)? Are you a nut about quality control or are you actually a control freak? Are you the answer man, brilliantly handling all queries from your people, blowing them away with your knowledge and wisdom? Is that really efficient in the long run? Worse yet – are you taking a certain joy in being the sees-all, knows-all oracle for all things important? You are the problem and your leadership sucks. Sorry to sound so negative, but you needed to know.

Make it right

There is hope….Try answering questions with “What do YOU think?” and keep asking questions until the answer comes out of someone else’s mouth. Help people to think about the why as often as possible. Never allow “I don’t know” to end with a period. Hock out the hairball of passive dependency. Quickly. Definitively. Now. Really.

Go ahead, invest in your people. Put others in a position to learn, to think, to use their best judgment, to act, to be responsible. Then trust, even when you know stuff will go wrong from time to time. Let them goof it up from occasionally and talk about lessons learned along the way. I know, you don’t think you have time. Do it anyway. You’ll save a ton of time in the long run. It’s an investment you’ll be glad you made.

Communications, community associations, condo associations, Cooperatives, Governance, leadership, Management

It’s Time to Change the Message (Part 2)

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Let’s say you did everything recommended in last week’s blog. You have great rules and have done a masterful job communicating them to your members. Bravo! Yet, despite best intentions and practice, someone’s gonna blow it. Reflecting back to last week’s Catholic imagery, whether it be an innocent sin of omission or a more brazen sin of commission, sooner or later a covenant will be violated or a rule broken.

Now what?

The knee jerk reaction might be to write the dreaded violation letter. Please stop and think first. In many locations, the law requires a full disclosure of all the bad things that can happen in the event of non-compliance, meaning there’s a slew of impersonal, aggressive-sounding legalese. Here comes the mean nun again….How can you achieve the goal of building community in this difficult circumstance?

Here are a few tips employed by successful volunteers and managers:

1. Walk softly before carrying a big stick: Perhaps an informal communication is best, even (perhaps especially) a verbal one. You can still make a note to file to have a business record of the conversation. A friendly email follow up to a conversation can be invaluable. When people know they are getting a little slack, many tend to appreciate it and the problem is gone. Even if they turn out to be bad players, you have a record of being very reasonable.

2. Never assume the person is even aware of the rule (even if you are sure): Starting off with “You might not realize this, but….” softens the blow. People have a lot going on in their lives. Their reality is that it doesn’t matter that they have an obligation to comply with provisions buried in the 4,536 papers they signed at settlement. It’s irrelevant until it impacts them personally.

3. EXPLAIN THE WHY:   Super important.  Try to weave it in to every communication if possible. People are thinking of themselves first (and so are you if you are not following these tips…). Helping them to see the broader wisdom of a rule, or the impact it could have on them if a neighbor were to violate the rule, could help. If nothing else, it establishes you as a reasonable player and provides context.

4. Give them the graceful exit: Assume a good result, thank them in advance for their consideration, be their partner in helping them to do the right thing. EVEN IN THE FORMAL VIOLATION LETTER WITH THE SCARY LEGALESE (which, by the way can be set off with a friendly disclaimer about hoping none of this will occur). The more you assume you’ll have to fight, the more it will seep out in your wording and the more likely it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

5. Consider your words carefully: Just some crazy talk here… Why not a “Due Process” Policy instead of an “Enforcement” Policy…. or maybe better… a “Community Values Administration” Policy? Or “Quality of Life Maintenance” Policy? Clearly, I’m struggling here. But anything is better than the Mean Nun “Enforcement” Policy.

6. Let someone else proofread your work: Make sure negative emotions aren’t creeping out… If you don’t have a good proofreader, set difficult correspondence and email aside long enough to pick it back up with fresh eyes.

7. Tom Tip Bonus – what to do when a member is angry about a neighbor’s actions and wants you to write a violation letter:  First, ask the member if he or she has spoken to the neighbor. Usually, the answer in “no.” I then say “I can certainly write the letter based of your written complaint. But may I ask you a question? If you were bothering your neighbor and didn’t realize it, which would you rather get; a visit from that neighbor with a plate of cookies and a smile with the message ‘you probably don’t realize it, but…’ or a nastygram from Big Brother?” If they agree, ask the member to let you know how it goes and let them know you’ll write the letter if necessary. Give it a try. It works!

We know that tone is as important, if not more important that content. Yes, you should check with association counsel to make sure your formal communications are fully compliant with legal requirements. Don’t give away the high ground, even when you are left with no choice but to brandish the big stick. The mean nun does not hold the high ground. If she did, the ruler would not be her first option.

community associations, condo associations, Cooperatives, HOAs, leadership, Management

It’s Time to Change the Message (Part 1)

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I learned some valuable life lessons from 4 years of parochial high school. I had no particular religious training coming into the situation, so I suppose I was probably more in tune to behavioral and societal issues than most guys as I was trying to figure things out. One gem I picked up was that, when it comes to people, control is an illusion. The more you try to control people, the more they find clever ways (and some of the fellas were REALLY clever…) to push against it. And the more they are likely to disrespect, even resent, your authority. The key for long-term buy-in for anything is always motivation. People need to understand The Why. It’s not about actions, it’s about the purpose for the actions. Huge difference. It takes a lot more work up front to engage hearts and minds, but it’s the only way to achieve long term success.

I’ve seen this reality play out big time in community associations. In the early years of the Community Associations Institute, the emphasis seemed to be on covenants compliance. Boards and managers alike fell for the rules instead of the rules existing to benefit the people.  The result? I think we see the impact of ego-based interactions, poor practices, unnecessary stress on association volunteers and managers, disaffected community members, and a general feeling in some quarters that community associations are inherently evil.  Leadership becomes easily lost in the practice of governance. It’s expedient to be autocratic and cold. Unfortunately, the practice of rule enforcement smells way too much like command and control, which we learned years ago is poor leadership. And that’s why it doesn’t work.

It…doesn’t…have…to…be…this…way!

Fortunately, in the late 90’s we started to see an awareness that the goal was building community. That it was about creating a space where willing compliance was the norm, not the negative and vicious cycle of rule enforcement. Successful community association volunteers and managers have found that effective leadership was the key. Great leaders see the bigger picture and help others to put themselves into it. Their communications reflect the values and vision of the community.
So how can we change the message to begin to turn negative cycles around?

Let’s talk about rules
I’m using the term ”rules” here, but the principle applies to any process, regulation, or bylaw amendment.

Common Mistake #1: The knee-jerk reaction to problems is to try and control the people involved. STOP! Remember, control is an illusion. If motivation is the goal, you’ll need to take the time to see what’s really going on. If a problem can be nipped in the bud with a one-on-one conversation, do it! If it turns out the condition could have an impact on the community as a whole and a rule might need to be created, there are tests you can apply to determine if a rule is good or not. Ask yourself, is the rule

1. Needed? Less is more. Really. The goal is building community. A rule may not be the answer.

2. Legal? If it violates your governing documents or prevailing law, you’re doomed.

3. Reasonable? You might be ticked off about bad behavior, but you can’t be punitive, AND you need to check your assumptions. Does the rule treat people unequally? Not only is that not reasonable, it may also be illegal.

4. Enforceable? Another Catholic school lesson: If a provision is unenforceable, it’s of zero value. In fact it erodes respect for authority as a whole.

5. Supported? If the membership doesn’t buy in, it’s just not going to work. This is where community can be broken down by rules.

I taught those standard 5 tests in leadership training for years. And then one day, a participant said “I think there’s a 6th one.” He was right.

6. Effective? Will the rule actually address the condition it was designed to tackle? It’s easy to get lost in the weeds in the rule creation process and end up with a result that makes no sense.

Tip #1: Be crystal clear on what the end result needs to look like and reverse engineer it. Don’t go from “A” to “B”, go from “B” to “A”.

 

Tip #2: Here’s a problem solving strategy that I’ve shared that seems to help a lot. Before the process begins and minds are still clear, list the conditions that must be satisfied for the proposed solution to work. Then you can test a draft rule against your list. If it doesn’t satisfy everything on the list, edit as needed until it does.

CAI has some great resources you can use, such as Kenneth Budd’s 1998 book Be Reasonable

Common Mistake #2: The second common mistake has to do with how a new rule is rolled out. If I read one more notice that starts off “As you are aware, we’ve had a problem with…” Click. I’m out. The nun just came at me with a ruler & I’m bolting. If you just came up with a good rule, it will enhance quality of life for the membership as a whole. Why not lead with that and help members to see why they should care and want to help?  How about, “The board of directors is pleased to announce a new feature that we believe will enhance the beauty of our community.” Then you explain how. The Why may be explicit or implicit, just make sure it’s in there. The fact that it’s a rule becomes far more palatable at the very least, and broadly supported at best.

Now what? Despite all best intentions, at some point a rule will be broken or a covenant violated. This will be covered in next week’s blog.

community associations, condo associations, Cooperatives, HOAs, leadership, Management

Property Manager ++

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What’s in a name?

The mouth, the mind and the figurative heart have a most curious relationship. The ancient psalmist observed that “out of the heart’s abundance, the mouth speaks.” And at the same time, the data indicates that what we talk about impacts our cognitive abilities and mood. The words we use are important. The information we allow into our minds impact us as well. Sooner or later much of the data, ideas and impressions we absorb impact the way we feel. In turn, the words that fall out of our mouths reflect those thoughts and feelings, occasionally revealing truths about ourselves that may surprise us for better or worse. And on the cycle goes… It pays to think about the words we use and be purposeful with them.

Here’s a word choice that’s still way too common in the community association management industry – “property manager.” It makes me cringe when I see and hear managers and management companies – even “leaders” in our industry – refer to what we do as “property management” performed by “property managers.” When I see that I can’t help but wonder if they fully appreciate…or maybe even respect…what we really do.

Don’t get me wrong – property management is an important PART of what we do. The term is derived from commercial and rental real estate management. In those niches, “property management” is very appropriate. Property is an asset financially and in “sticks and bricks.” Profitability must be the major focus of those disciplines to maintain viability. So, commercial and rental managers are, to a large extent, asset managers. It’s only fairly recently that on site apartment management positions began to use a “community manager” title in recognition that people actually live there.

However, as managers of homeowner associations, condominiums and cooperatives, we support and serve elected volunteer leaders and all the stakeholders in the community, some of whom are more than happy to remind us that they are our boss. It’s far more than asset management. The metrics are different. Community associations have 3 distinct characteristics; they are businesses, governments, and communities with stakeholders. Managers and volunteer leaders who fail to recognize the importance of all three elements do so at their own (and their community association’s) peril. I would also suggest that anytime human stakeholders are living in close quarters with one another there is an inevitable parallel with family, with all its risks, benefits, and emotional entanglements. This is a significantly human experience. Like families, community associations build successful legacies when they identify shared values, work towards common goals, and resolve the inevitable rough patches with compromise and reasonableness.

Therefore, we cannot be successful without managing community. Fortunately, awareness in this regard has been increasing steadily over the years. More in the industry are seeing the wisdom of a shift of focus from enforcement to the bigger context of building and promoting community. Back in the day, a heavy focus on covenants enforcement in the industry drove me nuts. It was as if people existed for the rules instead of the other way around. I believe that this lack of vision is at the core of negative impressions some have about community associations. The more community volunteers and managers act like leaders and less like bureaucrats and politicians, the better everything works. This is a major fundamental challenge facing all of us.

Of course, there’s a danger. Feel-good, fluffy, “We’re building great communities!” marketing messages without a dedication to excellence in taking care of the asset management part of our jobs doesn’t serve anybody in the long run. It saddens me when I find evidence of community managers who don’t see the importance of developing expertise in financials and property maintenance, either by lack of training or by choice. To be an effective community manager, you still have to be a property manager. So while I will always advocate for continuing to promote excellence in leadership and community-building, it is clear we must, as an industry, invest in educating managers and boards in the necessary work that goes on under the hood and out of sight. Only then can communities lay claim to being great.

So yes, community associations need managers solidly rooted in the fundamentals of property management. But they need more….they need broad perspective and leadership from truly professional Community Managers!

Emotional Intelligence, leadership

Accept Me As I Am? Maybe. The Paradox of Human Imperfection

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“To thine own self be true.” – Polonius in Hamlet

I have no doubt that when it comes to core values and principles, Shakespeare had it right. I remember hearing Hyrum Smith defining pain as the distance between where we are and where we want to be. Certainly, stress results when there is a gap between our actions and attitudes and the principles we have adopted, sooner or later. A guilty conscience can be a silent killer.

At the very same time, we silly humans can be masters of rationalization. At its most extreme, we can want something so desperately we will convince ourselves the means justify the ends. Or decide that it must be right because it feels that way in the moment, even though down deep we know our choices will likely slap us in the face sometime in the future. We say, “That’s just the way I am” to excuse a hot-tempered response or a thoughtless act.

Can we do better? Should we try?

I’ve come to think about it as the Paradox of Human Perfection. Thinking through the lens of paradox can be a useful tool for both self-examination and leadership.

Here’s how the paradox goes: Since we are imperfect, it is unreasonable for anyone to expect better than our best at a given point in time. At the same time, imperfection means that our best can probably get at least a little better, edging the needle closer to perfection. Most people are more than happy to gleefully embrace the first part. “Hey, that’s the best I can do!” and leave it at that. Those who strive to embrace the second part are rarer.

Achievement, growth and satisfaction lie in the ability to (1) accept the whole paradox, and (2) strive to find a healthy balance between both sides of it.

YOU

Studies in emotional intelligence tell us that self-knowledge and self-regulation are learned skills. Taking an honest (brutal) self-inventory can help us to determine where our behaviors come from, and how well they match up to the person we believe we could and should be. If you find yourself excusing poor behavior with the first half of the paradox or finding you blame outside conditions, events, or other people when you are called on the carpet, it’s time to recognize you can do better. Push yourself to grab the second half of the paradox. It can be scary to hold yourself responsible, but the end result is much more rewarding.

On the other hand, the so-called “overachievers” of the world can spend inordinate energy beating themselves to death for perceived failures. They forget the first half of the paradox. If that’s your tendency, it can help to find a trusted colleague, friend or mentor to help you see things in context, remind you of your value and pull you back from the edge. You balance the paradox by allowing that you gave your best at a specific point in time and place. You will learn and do better the next time. You don’t have to thrash yourself.

YOUR PEOPLE

The paradox also comes into play when you lead others. Here is where the skill of empathy taught in studies of emotional intelligence come into play. It’s important to observe how your people deal with the paradox. If they tend to fall into the habit of glomming only the first half of the paradox, it may be time to push. Help them to see a vision of their potential and create a safe space for them to work towards it. This rules out the character attacks typical of poor leadership. Paint the picture of the future you can see for them and put them in the best position to see themselves in the picture.

Conversely, self-starters are already beating themselves up. Don’t push – they are likely fairly close to the edge of the roof already. Your job is to gently pull them back. Be the coach that reminds them of their value and appreciates their efforts. These folks tend to be your most effective team members. If you push them, they are out the door (or off the roof!).

So be true to yourself – your best self. Be true to your people – create that space for them to find and work towards their potential. Support and understanding can coexist with high standards. It takes hard work, vision, balance, and empathy to make it happen. And it’s a game changer!